Faith is hard

Where to begin?
My tumor markers have been consistently going back up. So Esplin started me on a new chemo pill called Piqray in addition to my weekly infusions.

That same week, I had scans. May 13th. Esplin called me back the same night to tell me that everything was still stable!  I was really surprised!

Had my appointment with him on the 19th.   He explained that the fact the markers were going up meant that even though the scans show I'm stable, the cells are more active. He also mentioned that the cells in the bones go into these pockets in the bones and you can't really see them on scansSo I got my infusion along with my monthly Faslodex shots and my 3 month Lupron shot.  It hit me a lot earlier than usual and I was down for the count.  The next day I'm used to being sick, but this time was worse.  The digestive stuff was more frequent and I ended up with a fever Wednesday night.  It was back down by the morning. Thursday I'm usually ready to get going again, but this time I was still feeling sick.  Digestive issues, headaches, pains all over my body and nauseous. Not to mention that my taste has been worsening the past few weeks.  I couldn't even eat ice cream it was so gross.

By Friday I was pretty much back to my normal, but I'm definitely feeling the effects of two chemos vs. one.  Oh also, my hair has started to fall out again.

I'm frustrated and I am having a hard time thinking I have to stay on Taxol when it doesn't really seem to be helping much anymore.... Yet, if I go off of it, what will I do?

I'm frustrated that I'm over a  year into this and I'm no better than I was. Nothing seems to be working very well and we're checking off the treatments way too fast.

I'm working constantly on Faith in the Savior. Faith that everything will be okay no matter what.  It's hard to let go.  True Faith is hard. So very hard.  Being okay with whatever occurs, knowing it's better than my plan, letting go of control of something that I don't have control of in the first place.  I'm trying to practice it and some days or moments, I do better than others.

“Fighting through darkness and despair and pleading for the light is what opened this dispensation. It is what keeps it going, and it is what will keep you going.”
―Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, Created for Greater Things

“If for a while the harder you try, the harder it gets, take heart. So it has been with the best people who ever lived.”
―Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, "The Inconvenient Messiah"

Lord, do you love me?

I never know what to title my posts. So I think I'll wait until I'm done and see if there's something that sticks out.

Today is Sunday, I think.  Being quarantined makes it hard to remember what day it is as we do pretty much the same thing. We've been trying to add new things each week to make the Sabbath more special than the other days.

I've had some random thoughts, so this post will probably be all over the place.

I've just had my week off of chemo.  I don't feel more energetic or anything, I just don't have to go through 2 days of feeling like I have the flu. I really like it, but it makes going back all the more hard.

I go in Tuesday for my appointment with Esplin and then my chemo.  For some reason I feel a bit more anxious.  He'll take my tumor markers....which we won't know for a few days after my appointment, but then I'll know if it will be time to stop Taxol because it's not working or if I will continue with it because it's still holding things at bay.

I've really been tested with mental endurance.  I feel like I just can't keep going on this nasty poison, but the alternative means that it's not working, so then I want to stay on it.  I've been reading all these facebook posts in this new group that was created for the worldwide fast.  I've been reading everyone's miracles and  I so want one for me.  I dream of getting a scan and having my doctor call and say, Kristi! There's no sign of Cancer!  No sign at all!   However, that's not going to happen....and then just as I type that, I think see Kristi, you don't have enough faith....   Oh How I want a miracle, but I know I have this trial for some reason, and even though I don't know what that reason is, I don't think I've learned what I'm supposed to learn yet. I have A LOT to learn!

I've had the great opportunity to travel a lot during my life.  There's been a unique feeling that happens to me sometimes when I travel.  I won't be able to explain it well in words, but I'll try.  There have been times when I'm on a tour of ancient ruins or something and I kind of pull out of myself for a bit and see all of the people and feel the hugeness of the world and I feel very, very insignificant. I feel very alone in the middle of it and wonder how on earth my Father in Heaven can possibly be aware of ME.  I pull back in and reassure myself that indeed he is aware and I move on and forget about it...on purpose.  Maybe I was afraid at that moment to ask Him if he is, because 1-  It feels too huge and 2- maybe I was afraid of the answer.  I have felt that a few times during this pandemic.  With all that is going on with the world, reading about some people's miracles and other people's tragedies and thinking of all the people working tirelessly to help others, MY cancer feels very insignificant.  I start to think that my Father in Heaven can't possibly have time to help me, bless me, even be aware of me.  I think of the angels extra busy assisting people on earth who really need it RIGHT now.  Of angels welcoming new arrivals and teaching them and I'm just over here hanging out wondering if He still remembers I have cancer and I'm scared. If he remembers my girls are scared of losing their mother. If he remembers my husband is worried about losing me and how he will take care of the girls on his own.....If he remembers he doesn't feel good either.  If he remembers my child that struggles with depression and anxiety.
It's time for me to look back at my life and see the miracles I have experienced, to stop and count my blessings and all that proves HE does still remember that I'm over here scared of all of it.

I am reminded of Peter when the Lord asked him 3 times do you love me?  Do you think the Lord feels like Peter may have felt?  Lord, you know I love you. I've been with you, I've followed you, learned from you, helped you.  Kristi, You know I love you, remember all that I've done for you? Remember how I've blessed you and comforted you? Maybe he's feeling a little flabbergasted like Peter must have felt.......Lord how can you even ask me that? You know!  Kristi, how can you even ask me that?  You know!
I know that I don't understand His power.  I can't begin to comprehend how omniscience works.

“My beloved brothers and sisters, I testify of angels, both the heavenly and the mortal kind. In doing so I am testifying that God never leaves us alone, never leaves us unaided in the challenges that we face…On occasions, global or personal, we may feel we are distanced from God, shut out from heaven, lost, alone in dark and dreary places. Often enough that distress can be of our own making, but even then, the Father of us all is watching and assisting. And always there are those angels who come and go all around us, seen and unseen, known and unknown, mortal and immortal.” Elder Jeffrey R. Holland

And my heart is lifted, my faith is reaffirmed.

post note:  immediately upon finishing this post, the song from my mom's funeral came on the radio "She Put the Music in me"   There's my angel and there's my miracle.

World Chaos

Sometimes I have all these things in my head and want to write them down and then I get distracted and forget what I was going to write. So then I don't write and now it's been forever/

Right now I'm on my week off of Taxol. I'm scheduled to see Esplin next Tuesday and do another infusion.

I'm scheduled, but right now our country is in chaos. We're all self isolating and social distancing because of the Coronavirus.  I am in the "at risk" category because of stupid cancer. In addition to not having school or church, we are also not doing friends. 
I'm not too scared that I'm going to get it. I hope I don't and I don't know what my body would do if I did, but I am concerned that I won't be able to get my chemo treatment.  They're really cracking down and closing up places. I got a message this morning from Revere Health that some appointments could be cancelled. We also had an earthquake this morning. Sheesh

The other day I had a weird experience. I think it was Thursday or Friday and we were getting all this information about school's closing and so much stuff about the virus and I was so full of that, that I forgot about Cancer.  For the first time in a long time, I forgot about Cancer.  The reason I know I forgot is that I then remembered.

Remembering is like when you wake up and think it was a bad dream and then realize that it's not.  It's real.  And it hurts so bad.  It's a rush of emotions all at once and it's hard.
I was on facebook and I saw a post from a gal that I've never met, was planning on meeting soon, and is a year ahead of me in this journey and lives right here in my city.  She started on taxol in February and the Taxol actually stimulated the growth of her liver tumors and she is now in liver failure and have been given about 3-5 weeks to live.

She has the exact same mets as me. Bones and liver.  She is a member of my church and believes as I do about life after death. She never married and is around 42 years old.

It hit me like a boulder. I got scared and I cried and went to that dark place.  I crawled out fast, because I dd not want to stay there.  It scared me. and I've been trying to detach from it.

Now I am facilitating school to 4 kids and trying to figure out what is going on in the world.  A little secret I have is that I have kind of wanted the end of the world or the Second Coming to happen....I've been hoping that it will come sooner than later so that I won't have to die and leave my family. So my girls and Kevin won't have to worry about losing me.  I'm sure this is all a sign of the times, but theres's still so much that needs to happen for the end is here.

I sound like a real downer today.......maybe cause it's rainy and we've been locked inside. 
I'm doing okay and I'm hopeful and anxious to find out what my body is doing with this cancer. I hope that it's kicking it's butt.  I hope and pray that my tumors are getting weaker and dumber and won't be able to hold on any longer and just dissolve away.  I'm hoping and that's good.

Panic at the Disco

Valentines Day at 5:30 pm Esplin calls me and says your tumor markers have gone back up.

He tells me that the radio oncologist doesn't think we should do radiation but rather mastectomy. And he wants me to start the Red Devil.  That's the hardest chemo.

He panicked and so did I.

He let me take the next week off of chemo and do my scans on Friday.  So last Friday, Feb 21st I had both CT and bone scans.  I was super scared of what they would find. Scanxiety is real folks!

My appointment was on Tuesday.  My scans came back stable.  No progression.  No shrinkage either, but no progression. Even those dumb lymph nodes didn't grow. 

As a stage 4 patient, that is a victory.  I need to get more excited about those little victories.

He told me he panicked a bit and that's why he doesn't like to go by tumor markers alone.

So for now I'm continuing with 3 weeks of Taxol and then one week off.

I am the kind of person that needs a light at the end. A goal to reach.  I have to gear myself back up to continuing with chemo.  It's a serious mental effort on my part to be able to keep going.
I'm so tired of being tired and sick. I'm tired of being a burden to others.  My local church congregation has been feeding my family for 3 months and I feel like a burden.

I'm trying to teach myself how to be a sick person. To live with a terminal (we'll call it chronic) illness and still live.  I want to just do whatever I need to do even if I feel sick.

During the week off, Kevin and I talked about how I want to push for a mastectomy.  It just seems in my head that the breast is the one that's causing most of the alarms. As much as I don't want one, I just want it gone.  I told Dr. Esplin this, and he called my surgeon...remember Dr. Tittensor?  Anyway, they and the radio oncologist all feel the same.  Until I can get better control of my bones and liver a mastectomy would do more harm than good.  For one reason, the data shows it doesn't prolong life. Secondly, for the 4-6 weeks during preparation and recovery, I can't take any of my chemo meds and my bones and liver and lymph nodes can take off and get out of control.  So until we have better control over them and if my breast is still causing issues, then we'll revisit the mastectomy.

I'm glad that I'm at least stable. Now let's see shrinkage and my ultimate goal of No Evidence of Disease!